A Thought-Provoking Conversation About Women’s Roles in the Family

Hey y’all, today I want to open up and share a conversation I had with my husband that really made me stop and think. We were sitting around just talking, and somehow the topic of Kevin Samuels came up—you know, the podcaster who was always stirring the pot when it came to modern relationships and women’s expectations. Whether you agreed with him or not, he definitely sparked some real conversations.

Kevin often talked about how a lot of women today have very high standards when it comes to choosing a man. Like, some women want their partner to be making $300,000 to $500,000 a year—but at the same time, many aren’t willing to take on what used to be considered traditional homemaking roles. Now I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with having standards or ambition—trust me, I get it—but it made me think back to my own journey as a wife and what balance looks like in a real, healthy relationship.

When I was staying at home full-time, I made sure our home was peaceful, clean, and full of love. I paid attention to what my husband needed. I knew when he was coming home, and I’d have a hot meal ready. We’d even chat while he was on his way back, and that made me feel connected to him. I wasn’t just waiting on him—I was preparing a space where he could feel appreciated, seen, and supported after a long day of working hard for our family.

But here’s the thing—I also believe in freedom and choice. Women should absolutely be able to pursue their careers if that’s what their heart desires. It’s not about being stuck in a box; it’s about partnership and communication. If a woman is out there grinding too, then there needs to be a real talk between her and her partner about how to split the responsibilities at home. Fair is fair. You can’t build a home on assumptions—you build it on understanding, on listening to each other, and being honest about what you both need.

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My husband brought up something during our talk that stuck with me. He said, “It means the world to come home to a warm meal and a loving atmosphere.” And I felt that. It’s not just about the food—it’s about feeling cared for, feeling like your presence is appreciated. But he also said he respects and supports women chasing their dreams. He’s not the type to hold me back or expect everything to fall on me. He just believes that whatever your role is—provider, homemaker, entrepreneur, or all three—you’ve got to show up for it fully.

One thing we both agreed on: it’s frustrating when someone stays home but doesn’t actually contribute to the home. I’m talking about hiring help to do everything while spending all day shopping and blowing through the household income without a second thought. That’s not partnership—that’s imbalance. And honestly, that kind of dynamic builds resentment instead of love.

What this conversation reminded me is that love looks like effort. Whether you’re the one going out to work or the one running the home, what matters most is that you show up with love, with purpose, and with a mindset of giving—not just receiving.

So ladies—and fellas too—remember this: There’s no one-size-fits-all role in a relationship. But there is one rule that always applies: be present, be real, and be respectful of each other’s contributions. Don’t expect royalty treatment if you’re not willing to serve in your own way too.

At the end of the day, a happy family doesn’t just happen—it’s built, with teamwork, with communication, and with mutual respect. Let’s lift each other up and create homes where everyone feels valued.