Let me just say this straight up—losing weight is not as simple as people make it sound. And I want to make this clear because so many folks think it’s easy, but they’ve never actually had to deal with it themselves.
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Not Everyone Starts at the Same Place
Some people eat food without being attached to it. There’s no emotional connection there. But others? We eat food and we’re connected to it, like, “Oh, I love this flavor. I love that taste.”
You know, when we were little—y’all, I don’t know about you, but our parents sat there chewing on chicken and stuffing mashed potatoes in our mouths, giving us all kinds of things. They did that when you were a baby. They were putting everything in your mouth. They fed you all kinds of stuff like pig’s feet and pork.
And some people grew up loving that. That’s what we were introduced to as kids. But other kids were introduced to broccoli, brussels sprouts, tomatoes, cucumbers, fruits, and vegetables. We didn’t have that. We were just getting by, honey.
They’d give you a bean or two with a little bit of potatoes and that’s just what it was. Okay?
Phil’s Story – Real Life
Let’s talk about Phil from that movie. Yes, he did all that stuff, but y’all—he went right back and gained all his weight again. It happens.
And here’s what I want to explain for people who haven’t seen the movie: this is real life, okay? These are real people.
Phil did great. He lost weight, got super skinny—I don’t even know how skinny he was—but he got married. It was a whole big event. But then life happened. His relationship fell apart. Life stress.
And that stress took him right back to a place of abandonment, or whatever that feeling was for him. And that took him straight back to eating again.
Don’t Ask, “How Could You Let That Happen?”
People don’t think about that. They’ll say, “Oh really? How could you let that happen? How could you do that?”
People deal with things all the time. You can’t control how they manage it. So why sit around judging them? I just don’t get that.
Or they’ll say things like, “You’re just not consistent.” What are you even talking about?
Dieting Isn’t Easy
Because sometimes—like he said—dieting is not easy at all.
I remember my husband, and this is a true story. After I had my son, I gained a lot of weight because, you know, pregnancy weight and everything.
So I told him, “Yeah, buy me this. I want that for my diet. I need this book, that book, whatever.” And he kept buying me stuff. All kinds of things.
But then he realized—he was like, “Dang, why aren’t you ever consistent? Why do you start these things and then stop and never finish?”
I did that. And I thought to myself, “This is not easy. I’m trying, but I can stay strong for six weeks then fall off.” Or three weeks, then fall off. Strong, then fall off. It kept happening over and over until I finally found something—low carb—that worked for me. And I lost over 100 pounds.
My Husband’s Experience – From Judging to Understanding
And let me add this. God will humble you. When you’re running your mouth, there comes a time in your life when you go through something similar, and suddenly you understand exactly what that other person was dealing with.
And that’s what happened with my husband. He was solid. When he met me, he was skinny, fit, hitting the gym all the time.
Then life happened. He got a night-shift job because, you know, we had Darius and childcare was expensive. So we did what a lot of parents do—one works one shift, the other works another.
And he gained about 30 pounds. He started at 160, then 174. Then 204. And it kept going up.
The Cycle of Failing and Starting Over
Then he started trying different diets—this one, that one, the next one—low carb, everything. You start a diet and what happens? You fail.
Start a diet, stay strong for a month, then, “Man, I’m going back.” You know what I mean?
Your brain—your gut microbiome—your stomach has a mind of its own. Trust me, y’all.
The Cravings You Can’t Control
Even if you try something like going fully raw or any other strict plan, it still affects you. Your body will still crave.
Sometimes something pops into your head like, “Why do I want that?” You know, and you’re trying to decide whether to feed that thought. You know what I’m saying?
Easier Said Than Done
And honestly, it’s no different from anything else in life. It’s all the same. Sometimes memories pop up out of nowhere.
Like when an old song pops into your head and suddenly you remember what you were doing back then and you’re like, “Why am I even thinking about this?” You know what I mean?
It’s just part of life. It’s the cycle of life. And you have to learn to say, “Okay, yeah, that’s what I used to eat back then, but I’m not doing that anymore.”
Easier said than done. Way easier. That’s all I’m saying.
