One Sentence Made Me Ask Myself Should I Forgive Nate?

Let’s talk about something real. Something most people don’t post on social media—because marriage isn’t just about cute photos, anniversaries, or romantic getaways. It’s about staying when it’s hard, choosing love when it’s inconvenient, and fighting for connection when everything in you wants to walk away.

The truth? A long-term marriage doesn’t survive on love alone.

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It survives on two powerful foundations: deep communication and genuine forgiveness.

Not just “talking.”
Not just “sorry.”
But the kind of soul-deep, heart-wrenching honesty that strips down your pride… and the kind of forgiveness that says, “I choose us—even after what you did.”

We don’t always talk about the messy side of marriage, but we should. Because you will hurt each other. There will be words that slice like a knife, and moments where you’ll wonder, “Did we just go too far? Can we ever bounce back from this?”

The answer is yes— if you’re both willing to truly forgive.

And I don’t mean the kind of forgiveness where you say “it’s fine,” only to throw it back in their face eight years later. I mean the kind that lets go completely. The kind that doesn’t weaponize the past. The kind that says, “You’re not perfect, and neither am I—but we’re still in this together.”

One of the biggest mistakes couples make is replaying old arguments like a broken record.
You know how it goes:
“Remember what you said back in 2016?”
“That was 2006, why are we still talking about that?!”

And boom—another argument starts, not even about today.

What we often forget is this: your version of an event may be totally different from your spouse’s.
I saw it clearly on the show Married at First Sight.
A couple argued about who interrupted whom. The wife said she was just “adding” to the conversation. The husband felt disrespected and silenced. It wasn’t until they watched the video back that they realized—it was just misinterpretation.

It happens to all of us. You might think you said something out loud when really, it was just in your head. Or you say one sentence and expect your partner to grasp the entire emotional essay you wrote in your mind. But they can’t read minds. None of us can.

And then there are the little things—stress, being tired, hungry, overworked. Suddenly, you’re snapping over nothing. You take your frustration out on the person you love the most. It doesn’t make sense, but it happens.

That’s why St. Paul said he wanted to spare us from the challenges of marriage. It’s not for the faint of heart. Because marriage doesn’t just test your patience—it reveals your wounds, your pride, your flaws.

Over time, you don’t just marry one person—you marry 10 different versions of them. People change. They grow. And the person you said “I do” to at 25 might be unrecognizable at 45. But that doesn’t mean the marriage is over. It means it’s evolving.

A lot of marriages break today because they don’t have God at the center.
They lack true respect, consistent forgiveness, and the willingness to try again.

But here’s the good news—when you put God first, when you build your marriage on faith and not just feelings, everything begins to shift.

No, the problems won’t magically disappear. But suddenly, the petty stuff won’t feel so heavy.
You’ll find yourself thinking, “Is this really worth getting worked up over? In 20 minutes, we’ll probably be fine again.”

That’s growth.

That’s grace.

That’s what makes a marriage last—not perfection, but the decision to keep choosing each other, again and again.

Even when it hurts.
Even when it's hard.
Even when the world says, “Just give up.”

Because love—real love—isn’t just about feelings. It’s about faith, forgiveness, and the quiet strength of starting over… together.