Hi everyone, today I want to share a topic that Darius and I have often talked about—weight and the genetic factors that shape our bodies.
Predictions About My Son’s Future
As a mom, I’m always observing and thinking about my children’s future. With Darius, I often tell him, “Just wait until you get older—you’ll start gaining some weight.” I don’t believe he’ll ever become overweight, but I do think he’ll “fill out a bit more than he is now.”
And that’s not a bad thing—it’s just a natural part of growing up, of “becoming a man.” When Darius was thinner, he looked more like a little boy. Now, he looks healthier and much more masculine.
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Scientific Proof
What’s interesting is that Darius actually took a 23andMe DNA test, and the results showed that his body type, based on genetics, will always fall within the “average” weight range. It’s literally written into his genes.
On my side of the family, we don’t have anyone who’s overweight. Darius’s father isn’t heavy, and his brother isn’t either. On my side, most people have an average body type. However, on my husband’s side of the family, there are a few people who are a bit “heavier and big-boned.”
The Complexity of Weight
I understand that weight is influenced by so many different factors—it can be genetics, it can be lifestyle. That’s why I’ve always felt conflicted about this concept of “fat phobia” that Darius often brings up.
It’s difficult, because people who were born with “good genetics”—who don’t have a tendency to gain weight—are quick to judge and say, “They just need to lose weight. They just need to do this or that.” But it’s not always that simple. Sometimes, people are just naturally predisposed to having different body sizes.
My Personal Experience
I can share from my own life. When I was pregnant with Darius, I gained a lot of weight—I got really big. Afterward, I tried so many different diets to lose it.
At the time, my husband—who had never been overweight and was always thin—looked at me and said: “Why are you trying so many different diets? Why don’t you just pick one and stick to it?” He couldn’t understand why I kept switching from one diet to another without success.
And I would always tell him, “It’s not that easy.” But it wasn’t until he himself gained some weight and went on his very first diet that he came back to me and said, “Babe, I have to apologize. I didn’t know it was this hard.”
A Lesson in Understanding
That taught me something—if you’ve never been in that position, it’s hard to truly understand. It’s easy to say, “Just eat right,” or “Just do this or that,” but it’s never that simple.
People have jobs, families, responsibilities, and genetic predispositions that influence their body size. Their bodies metabolize food differently, and they’re at different stages of life. You have to realize that not everything is as it appears on the outside.
Final Thoughts
I believe we should never judge based on appearances alone. You might see someone who’s bigger and assume they eat cookies all day, but sometimes those same people eat very healthy foods—they just eat more of them.
What matters most is understanding, not rushing to judgment, because behind every person there’s a story and a set of circumstances that you may not see.
