Don’t Judge What You’ve Never Been Through
Today I want to speak directly about something I feel a lot of people need to hear: don’t judge someone else’s life when you’ve never stood where they stand.
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Everybody Deserves Grace
I honestly believe that when we look at this world, we should be giving each other more grace — more compassion, more understanding. We should try to see people within the context of their own situations, right? But here’s the problem: if you’ve never been in that position, if you’ve never experienced anything even close to what they’re going through, then you really can’t understand why they’re stuck in the middle of what they’re facing.
Maybe you grew up in a family with strict discipline around food. Maybe that’s just how your household worked. But that’s not the case for everybody.
Don’t Force Your Life Onto Someone Else
Like my husband said: “You can’t force your disciplined lifestyle onto somebody else just because you’ve mastered that part. I guarantee you there are other parts you don’t have.”
Exactly! Just because you’re strong in one area doesn’t give you the right to judge someone else in the area they’re struggling with.
We’re Not Even Careful Enough to Pray for People
And you know what makes me the saddest? It’s the fact that we aren’t even careful enough to pray for someone when they’re right in the middle of their storm. Instead, we’re quick to open our mouths and speak negatively about people we don’t even understand.
And honestly, it’s not even “talking bad” — it’s projecting your thoughts, your worldview, onto someone you’ve never taken the time to truly understand.
The Story Behind the Judgmental Comments
We had a comment under one of our videos saying that my husband “always starts things but never finishes them.”
What are you talking about? What exactly is he always starting but never finishing? Anything you know about is related to dieting. And that’s it!
But beyond that? Oh, he’s solid. Anything he puts his mind to — anything he touches — turns into diamonds, every single time. And you can see that through the consistency in our lifestyle, through the investments he’s made over the years, and the way he maintains them.
He has made huge contributions to our businesses and to how far we’ve come. You cannot run things this long, with this many investments and projects, without consistency.
So that comment was very, very inaccurate.
People’s Judgments Don’t Affect Me
You know what? No one’s judgment bothers me, because they’re not me. I simply don’t get shaken by that kind of stuff.
I am always going to be myself. I don’t know how not to be myself, no matter what’s happening. And that’s something I want everybody to understand.
Life be lifing — life keeps moving. And I think we all need to learn how to give each other space to live, to mess up, and to grow through our own experiences.
