Let’s have a real conversation, y’all. Being in the spotlight, especially online, means you’re constantly getting feedback—wanted or not. After eight years of showing up as my authentic self, I’ve learned the power of listening, growing, and protecting my peace. This journey has taught me something important: not all advice is bad, but how it’s delivered can make all the difference.
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“It’s not always what you say—it’s how you say it.”
Listen, I’m not above learning. I don’t walk around thinking I know everything. Just the other day, someone commented on one of my videos suggesting I switch from regular vinegar to apple cider vinegar—with “the mother”—because it’s gentler on digestion.
And baby, I remembered—they were absolutely right. Back when I was eating plant-based, apple cider vinegar was my go-to. So what did I do? I went out, got me a big ol’ bottle, and brought it right back into my routine. That’s growth. That’s maturity. That’s knowing when to listen.
Then another time, someone kindly suggested I place a towel under my cutting board to stop it from slipping. Now, that might seem small to some, but the way they said it? With care and kindness. No shade. No slick comments. Just, “Here’s a helpful tip.” And baby, that’s all it took for me to appreciate it.
If you really care—email me.
Let’s be real—if it’s serious, especially something concerning my health or well-being, and you’re coming from a place of love, reach out privately. Don’t blast it in the comments. Shoot me an email. That tells me you’re not just talking to be seen—you’re actually invested in helping.
And I’ll say thank you. Whether I take your advice or not is up to me, but I’ll always respect the intent behind it. I’m almost 50 (can y’all believe that?!), and by now, I’ve got my rhythm. But that doesn’t mean I’ve stopped evolving. Growth doesn’t have an expiration date.
I’m always learning—but I won’t tolerate disrespect.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: I don’t care how young you are—if you’ve got wisdom to share, I’m all ears. But what I won’t accept is someone trying to come at me sideways with judgment, sarcasm, or hidden bitterness. That says more about them than it ever will about me.
Some folks try to dress up criticism with a fake smile or passive-aggressive tone. But baby, I’ve been around long enough to see through that. If your advice is really coming from love, it’ll feel like love.
Eight years in, and I’m still standing strong.
I’ve never let negativity mold me into someone I’m not. I still eat how I eat, live how I live, and show up as myself every single day. People will always talk. But I refuse to let their noise drown out my peace.
Yes, I’ve got insecurities. We all do. But I’ve built my life around joy, faith, and a whole lotta love—from the people around me and from myself. That’s why I show up on camera just as I am. You either love me or you don’t. And guess what? I’m okay either way.
Because at the end of the day…
What really matters is being able to look in the mirror and say, “I’m proud of who I am.” Not perfect. Not above growth. Just real.
So next time you’ve got something to say—ask yourself first: Is it kind? Is it helpful? Is it necessary? If it checks those boxes, I’m listening. But if it’s just noise? Baby, I’ve learned how to tune that right out.
