Today, while chatting with Dalvin, I wanted to know a bit more about his love life. You know how it is — these kids never really tell their parents what’s going on or what they truly want. Dalvin is very private; he doesn’t say much at all. So sometimes, I have to dig a little to get the details.
“Do You Want to Find Love?”
I asked him straight up. Dalvin said yes, so I brought up how he once had what seemed like a serious relationship. He quickly clarified, “Mom, I wasn’t in a relationship — let’s make that clear.” Okay then! He said it was just a “situation.” But from where we stood as parents, it sure looked like a relationship to us.
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The Marriage Question
Then I asked, “Do you want to get married someday?”
Dalvin said, “A hundred percent, yes.”
He told me he recently learned something important — you can’t force love; it has to happen naturally. And that’s true. But as a mom, I also had to remind him of a few things.
The Responsibility of Marriage
I told Dalvin, “You know, when you step into something like marriage, there’s a lot that comes with it. You have to be mature when entering a relationship. You know what I mean — marriage is a commitment, a real one. You’ve got to be sure that’s what you want.”
You can’t just say five years later, ‘Well, I don’t like her/him anymore, I’m leaving.’ That’s not how it works.
Almost 30 – Time to Get Serious
Dalvin admitted, “I think I’m at the age now where settling down and finding someone to really build with matters more. Before, I didn’t really care. I thought, ‘It’ll happen when it happens.’ But now… it’s different. I’m almost 30.”
That’s good progress. But of course, I had to ask, “So, are you ready?”
Needs More Dating Experience
Dalvin was honest. “I think I need to date more, to be real. Just to figure out myself and see what works best for me.”
So I asked, “What are you looking for in a woman?”
Looking for a True Partner
He said, “I just want us to be happy — to be best friends, you know? Someone I can be close with, hang out with all the time, and never get tired of. Someone I can spend forever with — who really understands me inside and out.”
I nodded. That’s exactly it. But I reminded him, “Relationships have ups and downs, you know that.”
“100%,” Dalvin agreed. “You just have to know how to handle it. Know when to say, ‘Okay, that’s small, let’s move on.’”
