Hey everyone! Today, I want to talk about a topic that might sound a little sensitive to some people, but it’s incredibly important in marriage — that’s married life, the intimacy between husband and wife. I just hope this video doesn’t get demonetized, because this is something natural and healthy to discuss!
When Love Evolves Over Time
When you’ve been married or in a long-term relationship, you start to realize that things aren’t the same as when you first got together. I’m on my 25th year of marriage now, and let me be honest with you — things have definitely changed. And I’m not shy to admit that!
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The Early Days of Love
Back in the early days, oh my goodness, we were like rabbits! Two or three times a day, non-stop. “Come on baby, let’s do it!” — that was our regular line back then! And I’m not exaggerating; some of y’all know exactly what I’m talking about!
As Time Goes By
But as time passes, things slow down. It’s not three times a day anymore, not even twice sometimes. Still, ladies, we have to take care of our husbands. And that’s exactly what I want to share with you.
The Two S Rule
Listen carefully — this is my golden rule:
Keep the stomach full and the sack empty.
That’s right, you know what I mean! When his belly is full and his “sack” is empty, he’ll be happy all day long. Even if it’s not like it used to be, we still gotta keep that spark alive in our marriage.
My Personal Rule
For me, three times a week is a good number. Three times a week keeps him smiling, keeps him happy. My husband totally agrees with this rule!
Of course, there are weeks when I’m tired — maybe just once or twice. He understands that. But overall, three times a week is what I try to maintain.
Things You Should Know
About Men’s Physiology
You know, my husband told me about something called “blue balls” — and yes, that’s a real thing! Men can feel discomfort if they don’t release. It’s kind of like when they wake up from a “wet dream.” It’s totally real — you can Google it!
Just like we women have our own physical things going on, men do too. That’s why we have to be considerate of their needs.
As We Age
When we get older, our drive tends to decrease, right? But I still wonder — do people still “do it” at 50, 60, or even 70? I really want to know!
My husband is four years younger than me, so I’m like, how long do I need to keep this up? (laughs) But honestly, I think we should always find ways to keep things exciting in the bedroom.
Keeping the Fire Alive
Do Something Different
We have a Kama Sutra book with all kinds of positions, and we’ve even got some fun couple games too. You have to do things like that to keep it fresh, even at this age!
If you don’t, everything becomes boring — boring, boring, boring! So add some spice, try something new. There are tons of games for couples, and they’re really fun!
My Situation
Now, my husband has always had a high drive — always! He can just see me walk by, and he’s ready to go! I’m like, “Dude, you gotta stop that!” — I’m not as young as I used to be!
I know some of y’all can relate because you’ve got husbands like that too!
Questions for You
I’m really curious:
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How many times a week do you think is healthy? Some people say four times is better, but for me, three (sometimes two) feels right.
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When do you stop? After 50 years of marriage, are people still doing it?
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When do men’s needs start to decrease? At what point do they say, “I don’t need it, I don’t want it”?
For Those with Experience
If you’ve been married for decades and still keep your intimacy going at 60 or 70, please let me know! I truly want to hear your experiences!
About Health and Aging
I’m 50 now and post-menopausal, but I haven’t had any problems. I take Amberen and a few herbal supplements — calcium and magnesium. They really work and make me feel like a whole new woman!
Some people say women dry out as they age, but I wonder — when does that actually happen? When does the well run dry?
