She Said “Yes”

The Fateful Call

It all started with an early morning phone call. For those of you who haven’t been following, in my last three videos I shared my journey – how I asked my best friend, who I met on TikTok, if she’d be willing to have a child with me.

When the phone rang, I heard party noises in the background. My heart sank – I thought maybe she was drunk and about to turn me down. But no, y’all… she said “yes.”

I cried when I heard her answer. I didn’t record that moment because I didn’t expect her to call and tell me this. I’ve known about it for a little while now but kept it from my audience since so many of you ask me about it every single day.

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What “Yes” Means

I know some people will ask what her “yes” really means. To me, it’s a hopeful first step. I know there could still be challenges ahead, and answers can change, but right now I have hope – and that feels amazing.

We’ve had a short talk about needing more discussions on how this will actually play out. Last time she told me she didn’t want kids before marriage – something I completely respect. She also said she didn’t want to just be a surrogate, and I don’t want that either.

A New Stage: First Date

Right now, we’re at the stage of needing to go on a “first date.” Sounds weird, right? We’ve been so many places together, just never in a romantic way. There’s been a little closeness, but never… you know. We need to explore this relationship to decide what it’s going to be.

The problem is, I don’t really know how to “switch” our relationship. There are reasons why we never took things further before – part of it was my healing process, part of it was me needing clarity. I’ve been celibate for a while because for me, sex always complicates things.

A Change in Feelings

When I don’t overthink it, being intimate with her feels so natural – she’s beautiful and attractive. But now it’s more serious, because this could lead to marriage, not just friends-with-benefits. She’s now the future mother of my child, and her importance to me has tripled.

The Three-Month Plan

Here’s our plan: for the next three months, we’re just going to live life. At some point I’ll have to stop drinking and smoking weed. I want my eggs to be in the best condition, so I’ll quit at least three months before retrieval.

I’m nervous but excited. She’s my best friend, I know her so well, but now we’re stepping into a completely different territory.

Responding to Comments

Some people commented that I “need” her, so let me explain. Everything depends on circumstances. Like soda – not healthy in general, but for someone with low blood sugar, it’s necessary.

I’ve been isolated in Delaware for two years, with no friends or family around. It’s taken a serious toll on my mental health. I convinced myself I didn’t need anyone, but in reality, I was falling apart inside. Even when I did the dating show, I was pretending everything was fine.

The Only One Who Cared

When I started opening up about what was happening, truthfully, nobody really cared – except her. Everyone has their own problems, I get that. But when you’ve been alone for too long and finally need help, that’s when you see who’s truly there for you.

She’s seen the darkest parts of me. We’ve had fights, times where I pulled away for my own reasons, but she stayed because she saw the light in me. No one else ever has, except my parents – and even their love faded once they found out I’m a lesbian.

From Isolation to Hope

I moved from New York – such a lively city – to be closer to someone else’s family. When things didn’t work out, I was stuck with a pile of bills. To be clear, I don’t owe anybody money – if I did, I’d have been sued by now.

All last year, I was ready to die every single day. But to go from that place to possibly having a child this year, to having someone willing to even consider this with me, to being loved and reconnecting with life – that truly feels like a miracle.

The Determination to Have a Child

I’ve been part of so many kids’ lives, but I’ve never had my own. Now it’s my turn. And for her to bless me with this gift – there won’t be anyone more important to me besides God, for both me and our child.

In the next three months, I’ll be getting consultations about my eggs. After we go on vacation and spend time figuring things out, that’s when I’ll quit drinking and smoking. The following three months will be about research and beginning the process. Our goal is either by the end of this year or next year.

The Recovery

I know my life isn’t over. There’s still hope, God is still watching over me, I’m still loved, protected, and I have a reason to exist. I’ve survived the deepest depression of my life, and I can’t wait for y’all to see the change in me.

Needing Help

The next video might be our first date. I need your help – how do you date someone you’ve done everything with except be intimate? Should I plan a romantic dinner? What if she laughs?

When you know someone this well, everything feels different. But this is what I’ve always wanted – to love my best friend. I’ve loved her for so long, I was just afraid to show it because I was scared of being hurt again.

Please help me out, y’all. I really need your advice to step into this new chapter of my life.