When You Find the Right One: Conversations & Trust in Marriage
Hey y'all! B Loves Life here, reflecting on a topic that Nate and I were discussing earlier today – the significance of meaningful conversation in a relationship, and some jaw-dropping stories about trust.
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The Flow of Conversation
Let me tell y'all something – when you find the right person, conversations just flow. It's effortless! I knew I loved Nate the moment I met him, but it was those long, late-night phone calls that truly solidified our connection.
Do y’all remember when Nate and I first started dating? We would talk for hours on end. Sometimes, one of us would fall asleep – yep, even though Nate denies it, I used to hear him snoring! But honestly, it wasn’t about what we were saying, it was just about the joy of being in each other's company, sharing stories, and laughing together.
Nate pointed out how tough it can be when you're with someone who's super shy, and every word feels like it's being pulled out just to keep a basic conversation going. Not even in a relationship, but sometimes just with acquaintances, right? There’s absolutely nothing wrong with shy people – a lot of times, people are just reserved until they get comfortable with you. Once they do, their true personality shines through.
But when you know, you know! When the conversation is flowing easily and you can truly be vulnerable with each other – that’s when you know you’ve found something special. And if someone is opening up about something deeply personal, something that makes them vulnerable – and you could easily use that against them – that’s when you need to pay attention. It shows that they trust you, that they want to have a real connection with you. Of course, you should always make sure that what they’re saying is honest, but that’s key!
Trust Issues: Real Stories That Left Me Shook
Now, let me share some wild stories I recently came across!
Remember that one I told Nate about – the lady who was dating a guy who claimed he was "working on a house"? Turns out, the "house" he was working on was actually the home he shared with his WIFE! She went to surprise him one day, and guess what she found? The whole truth. I was like, "WHAT?!" I honestly can't fathom why he thought this was okay. He must’ve been older because how could he think this wouldn’t backfire? She told him she was coming, so he knew she was nearby, but she wanted to surprise him at the house. I still can’t believe it!
But hold on, that’s not even the wildest story. You won’t believe this one I read this morning. There was this man who paid for a woman and her son to go to Disney World with him. But guess what? She gets on the plane and finds out they’re on the SAME flight as him, his girlfriend, and his kids! And get this – they’re staying at the SAME hotel!
Now, here’s the kicker: the guy tells her, "Don't say anything, my girlfriend is just stalking me here." And then, he wires her $2,000 and books them adjoining rooms in the same hotel! Can you imagine? She was at the hotel, screaming at him, asking why he would do such a thing – bringing her to the same vacation as his girlfriend. And wait for it – it turns out he had THREE other baby mamas!
I honestly think his plan was to escape his "family vacation" with all these women and their kids, so he arranged to have an “outlet” by setting up adjoining rooms with his sneaky link. Sometimes, I just wonder, what is wrong with people?
I couldn't believe it when I read that. Who brings their "sneaky link" on a family vacation? And I've heard similar stories about nannies too – some men bring young nannies on trips, and things happen right under the wife’s nose. That’s why nanny cams often catch way more than just what the kids are up to!
The Bottom Line
At the end of the day, y'all, just be kind to the person you're with. Don’t be selfish. Cherish your time in your marriage and make sure you’re building on those five pillars I mentioned earlier: accountability, trust, communication, praying together, and forgiveness.
When you find someone you can talk to for hours, someone you can be vulnerable with, and someone who truly respects your trust – that’s something precious. Nate and I have been fortunate enough to share 25 years of that kind of bond. It hasn’t always been easy, but our foundation of honest communication has carried us through it all.
