Hey y’all! Today, while enjoying some spicy chicken, Nate and I had a deep conversation about the impact of divorce on families—especially on the kids. It’s a heavy topic, but one that we believe needs to be talked about openly.
Divorce Affects Kids at Every Age
A lot of people think divorce only affects little kids, but honestly, it impacts children at every age—even when they’re fully grown.
When kids are around 5 or 6, maybe it’s easier to explain what’s going on. But as they grow older and begin to understand things more deeply, the emotional pain can hit a lot harder.
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What I’ve Witnessed
Let me tell y’all—I've seen divorces truly destroy children’s lives.
Some people have told me that their parents’ divorce:
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Ruined their college experience
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Led them to drug addiction
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Kept them from living the life they wanted
And the sad thing is—it can happen even after the kids have already left home. Some said they never knew there was any issue in their parents’ marriage. Never!
The “No Arguing in Front of Kids” Rule
Nate and I talked about that unspoken rule: you should never argue in front of your kids.
Nate’s Perspective
Nate said, “I don’t know how many people actually live like that, because I didn’t grow up with that experience.”
He went on, “When I was little—oh, it didn’t matter! Kids still got whooped, you know? It just didn’t matter!”
My Experience
I agreed with Nate. I don’t know how people manage not to argue in front of their kids, because I didn’t grow up that way either.
And speaking for our community—I gotta be real—I don’t know if that’s just not part of Black culture or what, but that’s what I saw growing up. Everything was out in the open.
The Truth: Kids Feel It Anyway
No matter how much parents try to hide it, kids pick up on that negative energy. They know!
As you grow up, you look back and realize, “Okay… something wasn’t right there.”
Or like Nate always says, “Something is rotten in Denmark.” And he’s right.
Kids Are More Sensitive Than You Think
Even if parents don’t fight in front of their kids, they still feel it. They might not understand exactly what’s wrong, but they sense the tension, the distance, and the negative energy in the home.
A Message to Olivia (Liv’s Life) and Others Going Through Hard Times
We wanted to share this because so many women out there are dealing with infidelity—husbands or boyfriends who cheat.
I was just watching Olivia from Liv’s Life—y’all know her? She and her husband Jerrod have been through so much.
Olivia’s Story
He did her wrong—like, really wrong. They were married and everything, and she found out he had another woman. It was a mess.
But you know what? Sometimes you just can’t control who you love.
She loved that man deeply. She kept asking herself, “Why do I keep going back?” And y’all, you can feel her pain in every video.
My Message to My Sisters
I get it. Yes, we women have to do better. We have to leave, we have to stand up for ourselves—but let’s be honest—it’s way easier said than done!
Why Do People Judge So Quickly?
People are so quick to say, “Leave him! Do this, do that!”
But what if they were in that relationship?
It’s easier for some women to walk away than others. It depends on:
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Your personality
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What you’ve built together
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The bond you share
Some people take a long time to finally say, “Okay, I’m done.” And that’s just real life.
Not Everyone Is Built Strong
Some folks—men or women—just aren’t built to say, “I’m done. I’ll be fine on my own.”
Nate said something true: “I can live miserable by myself.” Some people can say that.
But not everyone can. Some people have a real need to be with someone. And there’s nothing wrong with that—that’s just how they’re wired.
Olivia might be that kind of person.
Love Is Powerful
Love is a powerful thing, y’all. It really is.
Kids Make Everything More Complicated
And here’s the thing—they have kids together. That changes everything.
When you have kids, the whole situation becomes more layered. You start thinking:
“Even if I’m done… how do we handle the kids? What do we tell them? How do we move forward?”
When kids are little, maybe it’s easier. But when they’re older—when they understand—it cuts deep. Relationships can hurt people, whether you’re right or wrong.
Our Prayer
I just want to wish Olivia the best in her life, her relationship, her family—everything.
We’re truly praying for her, y’all.
Why I Feel for Her
Because she’s been going through it right there on camera. Everything.
And I feel bad for her because people are being so harsh.
Y’all act like YouTubers don’t have real lives!
Final Thoughts
Sometimes it feels like we’re not even seen as real people.
And the same people judging are often going through similar stuff themselves—they just don’t have an audience watching.
Or maybe they’ll face something like that one day—they just haven’t yet.
Nate’s Take
Nate said, “Just because someone’s sharing their life on YouTube doesn’t mean you get to judge or hurt them. You’re watching it—okay. Maybe it entertains you, maybe it doesn’t. You can have your feelings about it, but just pray for them. That’s it. Pray for what they’re going through.”
In the End
Divorce and family struggles are serious. They affect everyone differently.
So if you—or someone you know—is going through it, please remember:
✅ Everyone heals differently
✅ No one has the right to judge your journey
✅ Kids are always affected, no matter their age
✅ Love is powerful and complicated
✅ Pray instead of criticizing
Let’s be kind to one another, y’all.
