Hey y’all! Today I felt led to open up about something real close to my heart—marriage. My husband and I were sitting down to a seafood meal the other day, and the conversation we had? Whew! It reminded me just how deep this journey really is.
Let me start by saying this loud and clear: no marriage is perfect. I don’t care who’s on Instagram acting like they’ve got it all together—nobody’s relationship is flawless. Sometimes I want to wring my man’s neck! 😤 And mind you, he’s a good man! Loyal, hardworking, respectful... but still, we bump heads. And that’s okay. That’s real.
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You could marry someone who’s never cheated, never lied, who brings you flowers just because—and guess what? It can still be hard. Why? Because relationships take effort, communication, intention, and commitment. You gotta keep dating your spouse, keep laughing, keep choosing each other. Every. Single. Day.
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned in our 20+ years of marriage is accountability. It’s so easy to say, “He’s wrong,” or “He needs to change.” But if I’m in this with him, then I have to reflect too. Growth doesn’t come from pointing fingers—it comes from looking in the mirror.
And let me keep it 100 with y’all—after two decades, I’m still learning about this man. People grow. They shift. Hormones change. Life hits. The person you married years ago? They might not be the same, and that’s not a bad thing. That’s life. That’s growth. And when you love someone, you learn to evolve with them—not resent them for changing.
Now hear me clearly: putting God at the center is non-negotiable. Without that spiritual foundation, everything feels shakier. Prayer, patience, and purpose keep us grounded when things get rocky.
And like Pastor Cow once said, “Love is a commitment.” Falling in love is a feeling, but loving someone—really loving them—is a daily decision. It’s saying, “I choose you, even when you’re not easy to love. I choose to care for you—in every way that matters.”
So to all the couples out there—newlyweds, seasoned partners, or even those struggling—I see you. Keep growing. Keep forgiving. Keep loving.
Love y’all deep. Peace and love always! ❤️
