When I look back over my life, I don’t just see a timeline of birthdays—I see a map of growth, pain, faith, and healing. Each new age hasn’t just been a number. It’s been a lesson.
Thirteen was the first time I felt that shift—“I’m not a kid anymore.” Eighteen came with legal adulthood, and 20 felt like a brand-new chapter. Then came 21—the milestone that speaks for itself. But when I hit 30, something deeper stirred in me. I began asking questions like, “Have I done enough?” And by 40, those questions got even louder.
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But 50… 50 was different. It was peaceful. I looked around and realized: I’m alive, I’m healthy, I’m strong, and I’m full of joy. That’s not something to take lightly. I wasn’t chasing perfection—I was embracing purpose.
I don’t regret any of it. Not the broken moments, not the mistakes, not the detours. Because everything that felt like a setback actually set me up to become this version of me. The version that trusts God with the full picture, not just the highlight reel.
Listen—pressure will try you. But pressure also produces diamonds. You can’t grow without it. It pushes you, tests you, and ultimately reveals what you're made of. That’s why I’ve been praying on writing a book about aging—not as something to fear, but as a gift. Because wisdom doesn’t just come with years; it comes with reflection.
Life has taught me that every hard season carries hidden value. If you’re willing to surrender, truly surrender—to say, “Lord, I didn’t handle that well, but I want to learn,”—then you unlock a different kind of peace. A peace that the world can’t give you, and definitely can’t take away.
That’s why I pray every day: “Lord, help me be the best version of myself. Use me, mold me, shape me.” I don't need to fit into anybody else's box of what a “Christian” should look like. I know my relationship with God. And I know He’s working in me, even when the world can’t see it.
So no, I don’t owe the world an explanation. I show up joyful not because life is easy, but because I know who’s guiding me. And when people try to tell me what I should or shouldn’t be doing, I remember—they’re not the ones writing my story.
Stress? Let it go. The world will have you wrapped up in things that don’t even matter. Don’t give it your energy. That weight you’re carrying? It’s not yours. It belongs to the One who promised to carry your burdens.
Because stress isn’t just emotional—it’s physical. It’ll mess with your sleep, your appetite, your mind. I know this firsthand. When I’m off, you see it in my face, my spirit, everything. But I refuse to let it win. I refuse to make myself sick over things I can’t control.
Yes, life moves fast. The bills still come. The responsibilities pile up. But sometimes, I believe God steps back and says, “Let’s see who you are under pressure. Let’s see what your heart really looks like.” Because it’s not just about what we do when things are good. It’s about who we are when things fall apart.
Are you still kind? Do you still praise Him? Do you still seek peace over pride? Those are the questions that matter. Because sometimes, God isn’t punishing you—He’s preparing you. Not everyone can handle the blessing they’re asking for. Sometimes, He needs to know if you’ll stay grounded when elevation comes.
I’m saying all this because someone needs to hear it. And I believe with my whole heart that the Holy Spirit is using my voice to speak to you—right now. This isn’t about me. It’s about someone who’s feeling tired, unseen, or uncertain. You’re not alone. And more importantly, you’re not done.
Let God fight the battle you’ve been trying to fight alone. Sit down, breathe, and let Him work.
He’s never failed you before—and He’s not about to start now.
