When Income Becomes an Issue in Marriage – A Perspective from the Hot Tub
Hey everyone! Today, my husband and I were relaxing in the hot tub and ended up talking about a pretty heated topic we saw on Married at First Sight Australia. It was about a woman who hurt her husband simply because of… his paycheck.
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A Heartbreaking Moment
In the show, a newlywed couple was having a conversation about work. When the husband shared that he earned $25 an hour, his wife bluntly replied: “$25 an hour? That’s not enough!”
Y’all, when I heard that, my heart sank. I could see the pain on his face even through the screen. And what made it worse was that she claimed it was just a joke. But let’s be real—words like that are not a joke.
Why This Is So Dangerous
Ladies, I want to tell you something: never tear down your man over his income. Here’s why:
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Men value their role as providers
Most men are wired to be protectors and providers. That’s the way God created them. When you criticize his income, you’re attacking the very core of his identity. -
Some lines should never be crossed
I’m a straight shooter, you all know I talk loud, but I’m also sensitive to people’s feelings. I know there are things I would never say to my husband because they would cut too deep. -
It devalues his worth as a person
Criticizing income is like saying: “Your job doesn’t matter. You don’t matter.” That’s cruel beyond words.
What Made It Even Worse
Do you know what really got me? Just before this, the wife had opened up about being addicted to drugs for 10 years. And the husband calmly accepted it, saying: “I believe people should live for the future and leave the past behind.”
Honestly, a lot of men would have had a hundred questions in that situation. But he accepted her, forgave her, and moved on. Yet the very next day, she judged him over money!
The Right Way to Handle It
Instead of tearing him down, a wise wife would:
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Encourage him
“Baby, have you ever thought about moving into management? Or maybe starting your own trucking company someday?” -
Motivate instead of destroy
Inspire him to want to earn more, instead of making him feel like he’s not good enough. -
Understand that happiness matters more than money
The man on the show said this was the least money he’s ever made, but also the happiest he’s ever been. Doesn’t that mean something?
Advice from the Heart
So here we are, sitting in the hot tub, talking all this through, and I feel so grateful to have a husband who understands. Marriage needs boundaries. It needs respect.
There are just some things you don’t say to a man. And income is one of the most sensitive topics of all. Remember, when you love someone, you love the whole person—not just his bank account.
