Hey family,
Today I want to take a moment to speak from the heart — not just because everyone seems to be talking about it, but because it matters how we talk about people. Truth be told, I didn’t even know I was going viral until Dane from Dame Dash let me know. Apparently, the internet has a whole lot to say about my weight gain and my hair.
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First things first:
To those genuinely concerned — thank you. If you care about me, I humbly ask for your prayers. Pray to Jesus, the one I follow with all my heart.
I’m 50 years old, and I've lived through a lot. Right now, I’m walking my own spiritual path, trying every day to be a better version of myself. And this hair journey I’m on? Baby, I’m loving every bit of it. I won’t apologize for growing or changing. I won’t shrink myself to fit into anyone else's comfort zone.
Yes — I’ve gained weight. Quite a bit, actually. After undergoing endometrial ablation, my body shifted into menopause, and let me tell you — that weight came fast and wasn’t easy to manage. But here’s what matters most: I’m healthy. No diabetes, no high blood pressure, no medication. None. Also, cameras do add a few pounds — don’t let them fool you.
I’m at peace with my body because it’s not sick. I eat clean. Even the sauces I make are low in sodium because I use veggie broth. I’ve been through therapy. I’ve learned not to let negativity land on me. What you say won’t change who I am or how I move.
Now let’s talk hair:
I started my sisterlocks journey and gave my crown a name — Zara. Yes, I named her. And I love her. I’m not putting on wigs or covering her up. My hair is growing strong, full, and alive. I only wish I had started sooner. Some folks call the beginning the “ugly phase” — but I’m over here soaking in every second.
I launched my YouTube channel on January 3, 2017 — and I don’t regret a thing. Going to therapy? Best gift I ever gave myself. It helped shape the woman I was always meant to be — like it or not.
Don’t let the world make you question your worth. You are valuable. You are beautiful. You already are everything you’re supposed to be. With Jesus, I’ve learned I am more than enough.
I’m even grateful for going viral. Good or bad, attention is still attention — views are views, and a blessing is a blessing. I’ve gained thousands of new followers, and I truly appreciate each one.
I’m still building. I’m working on a new low-sodium sauce and writing my first book. God is still blessing, and everything I have — every single thing — is by His grace.
To those who don’t understand my hair journey or my weight: I’m sorry you feel that way, but I’m happy. If you want to pray for me, please pray to the one true God. If you serve Him, then we share the same Holy Spirit.
And to those asking: Yes, I’m really okay. I promise. I go to the doctor regularly — because at this age, I have to stay on top of my health. My numbers, my b-l-o-o-d tests — all good.
If you’re thinking about getting sisterlocks, don’t be afraid. I have 342 locs, and they’re still “young.” My loctician told me I’ll see big changes by June. They’re small now, but they’ll thicken over time. For some, it takes two full years for the locks to mature and fully seal.
I love how my scalp feels — strong and healthy. I’ve even got a little “hand-in-hair” syndrome going on, I can’t stop touching them! And yes, I can finally shake ‘em a little too!
Listen — everybody needs Jesus in their life. Go read John 3:16. If you’re lost, if you feel broken, invite Him in. Ask Jesus to live in your heart, to forgive your sins, and to guide your steps. There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.
I love y’all. I really do. I’m going to keep being true to myself. Always. Keep God first, and never feel pressured to change who you are for the world. Be proud of who you are. Because at the end of the day, if you feel good about you and you know God loves you — that’s all that truly matters.
