Be Careful When Dating
Y’all, I have to tell you about something I just read. It honestly broke my heart—about a 9-year-old little girl. Oh my God, some people are just so cruel. A 9-year-old girl was murdered by her mother’s boyfriend.
This man was truly evil. The little girl’s mother had already filed reports of domestic violence against him. And sometimes—I know some police officers might be watching this video—I’m not saying all officers are like this, but sometimes when you call 911 or report something to the police station, they don’t move as fast as they could.
This mom, she actually took the right steps to protect herself and her child. She filed a report. She got a restraining order. She tried to cut all ties with this man. She was doing everything right, taking all the right steps. But when she went to the police, they just didn’t take it seriously. They were like, “Okay, yeah, yeah, sure.”
Then this man shows up at her house with a gun. He walks into the room where she was lying with her child. He shot the child in the head and shot the mom in the shoulder. He didn’t want to kill her. He shot her in the shoulder so she’d have to live with that pain for the rest of her life. He wanted her to suffer.
She survived. She ran out of the house after he left. She made it to the street. Someone called 911, and she was taken to the hospital with a gunshot wound in her shoulder. The child was rushed to the ER but sadly didn’t make it. Just crazy.
I saw so many people in the comments saying that if you have kids, you *have to* run background checks on people you’re dating. Some folks said, “I’m not dating at all while my kids are still at home. I’m not bringing anyone into my house.” Others said they never let the person they’re dating know where they live. But some people are just too comfortable bringing men home—especially ones with criminal records. Like, “Oh, you’ve been to jail? You did what? Oh well, I don’t care.” Or, “Am I crazy? I don’t care.” That’s crazy too. You’ve got kids. You don’t know what could happen when you bring someone around them.
I’m just saying—listen, y’all have to be careful when dating. If you’re out here dating, please be careful. There are background checks you can do instantly, like right now, and it’ll tell you straight up whether someone’s safe or not. You know what I mean? Get that connection.
Because it’s wild out there. You don’t know who you’re meeting. It’s scary even if you don’t have kids. Even without kids, you still have to protect yourself—because they could come for *you*. Who knows?
What do y’all think about that? I want to hear from you in the comments. I’m really curious—do you think that woman was just lonely? Maybe she was lonely. She had kids. Yeah, she could’ve been feeling lonely even with her kids, but do you think she just really needed a partner? Was it about needing companionship, or was she just not thinking about the violence or his criminal past? What was it? How do you think she should’ve handled it? You know what I mean?
Some people in the comments were saying their parents always told them: “Never get into a relationship with a man when you’ve got kids.” I mean, you know, this woman said she was divorced. She told herself she wouldn’t be in another relationship until her kids were grown and she wasn’t raising them anymore because of all this kind of stuff. She didn’t want anyone around her kids. Nobody.
And some folks have rules like—they’ll date, but the person will never know where they live. And they’ll never introduce them to their kids until it’s serious-serious, like marriage serious. You know what I mean? So they’ll date for years.
Some people said they’ve been dating for years and their kids never even met the person. The kids didn’t know who they were. I was like, “Wow.” But some people are like that. They’re very, very private with their kids—and that’s exactly how you *should* be, because these days, you can’t even trust… You can barely trust your own family members, you know? Nobody you think you’re safe around. You’re not safe out here. You have to stay alert. You have to be cautious with everybody
