Hey everyone! Today I want to share about a rather “tense” conversation I had with Darius about… finding love. And it all started with a simple question: “What’s your type?”
The Interrogation Begins
“What kind of person do you like?” – I’ve asked my son this question so many times. And every time, Darius gives the same answer: “I don’t really have a preference.” But I know he’s lying!
I shot back: “You’re very picky. You’re very picky, y’all. I don’t care what nobody say. He’s very picky!” When he was younger, if I said someone was cute, he’d say: “What? This man looks crazy!” And now he claims he has no preference? Please!
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Suspecting My Son Is Asexual
Honestly, there were times I thought: “I think that’s what he is – asexual – being in denial.” Why? Because he never seems to like anyone! But then Darius explained: “There have been many a time where I have left a hookup thinking I was though… Because sometimes people are crazy.”*
Ah, so it’s not that he’s asexual, it’s just that he’s met too many wild people! “They say something crazy”* – he said. And every time, it makes him question if he might be asexual. Poor thing!
Finally, a Confession!
After all my “torture,” Darius finally admitted: “Big arms, big thighs” – that’s exactly what he wants! Finally! I asked: “Why you got to have big thighs, Darius?”
And his answer left me not knowing whether to laugh or cry: “I’m not no little skinny girl. I’m very thick. And I think I need a thick person to handle me.” My child calling himself “very thick” and needing someone “thick” to “handle” him! 😂
Modern Dating Shocked Me
From preferences, the conversation shifted to how dating works nowadays – and I was horrified. They don’t call before meeting! “This is 2025, mama. I don’t know what your voice sound like until I knock at the door.”
What?! Just messaging through an app and then going straight to someone’s house? “Hello” being the first time you hear each other’s voice? I was stunned!
The “Buck 95 vs Buck 55” Debate
Trying to understand his type better, I asked: “Would you want somebody that’s a buck 95 or a buck 55?” (195 lbs or 155 lbs?)
Darius laughed: “95 cents is crazy cuz I don’t know anybody who is… Oh yeah, there is people that’s 95.”* Then he remembered someone at our church who weighed exactly 95 lbs. But for an average-height person, that’s too skinny.
The Truth About the “Package”
“What’s your package?” – I wanted to know his full criteria. But Darius dodged: “I can’t let everybody know the end game cuz if I don’t make it then it’s embarrassing.”
Turns out, he’s afraid that if he says his goal and doesn’t achieve it, it’ll be humiliating. But I still got my answer: he likes “big arms, big thighs” because he considers himself “very thick” and needs someone who can match that.
Shocking Discoveries About the New Era
The more we talked, the more shocked I became. My son “hosts” and “gets hosted” – meaning going to strangers’ homes or inviting strangers over without knowing anything about them! Just a few messages and a “live” photo on Snapchat.
“You don’t do background checks?” I asked. “No, mom!” – he answered, as if I’d asked something absurd. To him, doing a background check for a hookup would be “diabolical”!
Conclusion: A Mom Who Understands Her Son Better
After this conversation, I understand Darius much better. He’s not asexual – just picky and… unlucky! He knows exactly what he wants: “big arms, big thighs” and someone “thick” enough to match his “very thick” personality.
Still, the way dating works now scares me to death! At least now I know his preferences. The next step? Figuring out how to keep him safe in this wild dating world!
