On Boundaries in Skits When You’re Married
Y’all, I need to talk about this because it’s been on my mind. Let’s talk about Justin—he’s a pastor, but in his skits, he’s out here cheating on his wife, cussing, touching all over women, kissing them—literally kissing them. And I’m like, “How is he getting away with this?”
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I Want to Hear Y’all’s Perspective
If you had a spouse—husband, wife, whoever—and they were doing skits on YouTube where they were kissing and touching all over somebody else, how would you feel? Do y’all think there’s a difference between acting on the big screen, like Denzel Washington, Taraji, Angela Bassett, or Viola Davis—people who get paid millions, who trained for this, who went to school for it—versus a YouTube Creator doing skits and still kissing and touching? Because technically, actors in movies do the same thing. So are we being hypocritical by saying it’s okay on the big screen because it’s Hollywood money, but it’s not okay on a YouTube screen?
My Husband and I’s Agreement
Listen, I know what works in my household. We’ve already agreed—we AIN’T GOING. Neither one of us. We had the conversation and we’re not doing it because we know how that plays out. That’s just our stance. I’m not even calling out Justin specifically, but in my opinion, using skits as an excuse feels like a way to “do your dirty work.” Like, “I’m gonna act this out so I can get what I want, and I’m covered because it’s not really cheating—it’s just acting.”
The Mahogany Issue
From what I’ve seen, Mahogany didn’t seem to have a problem at first, but then people said she actually always did. She’s spoken up, saying, “I don’t feel comfortable with you doing this with that woman,” but he kept brushing her off. For me and my husband, a skit where you’re kissing a woman on the mouth, grabbing her butt, and rubbing all over her body—that’s just not appropriate. And I’m sitting there like, “What is really going on here?”
The Line Between Acting and Reality
Maybe he feels fine with it, maybe to him it’s “just acting.” A lot of people think acting isn’t real life—“This isn’t who I really am, so it doesn’t count.” But does that really make it okay? Do y’all see that as just a “slap on the wrist”—like, “by God, it’s acting, it’s fine”—or should the thought be, “If I’m doing comedy skits, I don’t need to touch someone inappropriately, especially knowing my wife is watching”?
When Real Feelings Show Up
What worries me is when you can actually see real feelings pop up. In those skits, you can clearly tell he had a connection with Serena. If y’all watched those, you saw it—when they started kissing, there was something there. My husband and I looked at each other like, “They felt something in that moment.” And sure enough, Mahogany went back, watched, and later confronted him like, “Did you have feelings for her?”—and he admitted he did.
My Question to Y’all
So I’m asking—would you allow that? Would you approve of that? Spam up my comments and let me know.
Because in my household, we already decided—it’s a no. To us, it feels like using skits as an excuse to do your dirty work, and saying, “It’s not really cheating because it’s acting.”
What do y’all think? I know I said a mouthful, but I really want to hear y’all’s thoughts on this.
