On Prenups and a 24-Year Relationship – My Honest Perspective
Hi everyone, today I want to open up about two sensitive topics: prenuptial agreements (prenups) and how we’ve built our relationship over the past 24 years. These are my genuine thoughts after a deep conversation with Nate.
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Prenups – A Practical Point of View
When it comes to prenups, I’ll be straight: our kids will have to have one in the future. Some people might think that sounds harsh, but let me explain.
We’ve built our careers through social media, and while we’re not billionaires, we do have money. My kids grew up in this environment, which means they could become targets for people with the wrong intentions. I don’t want anyone pretending to love my child for 5, 6, even 10 years just to walk away with money.
Nate has a very realistic perspective: “A prenup is just a legal way of separating what you had before marriage from what we’ll build together. If I truly love you and you’re a billionaire, I’d sign without hesitation—because I didn’t come for your money.”
I agree with that. If someone really loves my kids, a prenup shouldn’t bother them. It clears away any doubt about their motives.
Our 24-Year Journey – The Early Sacrifices
Looking back, I remember the big decisions I made. When I first met Nate, I had a job offer from the post office in Illinois—$19 an hour back in 1998. That was good money. But I turned it down to follow Nate, because I truly believed God showed me he was my future husband.
I left my hometown, left my family, and brought my son with me to be with Nate. It wasn’t an easy choice, but I knew it was the right one. Nate proved me right—he loved and raised my son as his own.
Complete Trust
One thing many couples might not understand is the level of trust we have. We share everything—passwords, bank accounts, personal information. His phone unlocks with my face, and mine unlocks with his.
“I know not every relationship works like ours, and that’s okay,” I often say, “but for us, everything is shared. From bank accounts to passwords, nothing is hidden.”
Traditional Roles in a Modern Family
For over 20 years, Nate was the financial provider. He made six figures working at GE, while I stayed home as a mom. Vacations, shopping, bills—he handled it all.
Now that I also earn from YouTube, I still respect his role as “the man of the house.” I trust him to manage finances, investments, insurance, and retirement planning. He has a business degree—he knows what he’s doing.
“I married him for his potential,” I laugh. “I saw his intelligence, his foundation, and I knew I could help him become even better.”
Best Friends Before Husband and Wife
The most special part of our relationship is that we were best friends before we were a couple. Nate once said: “We became best friends in the first 3–6 months of dating. When you open your heart to someone and they respond to that vulnerability, you connect on a deeper level—beyond sex.”
We come from similar backgrounds, with the same values and faith. That created a bond I’d never experienced with anyone else.
Family Meetings Like a Business
Something unusual about us is that we have scheduled family meetings. And these aren’t just casual talks—we turn everything off, sit down, and treat it like a business meeting. We go over finances, goals, and future plans.
“We’re building a legacy for our children and grandchildren,” Nate explains. “It’s a two-part plan: making sure we retire comfortably and laying a solid foundation for future generations.”
Final Thoughts
After 24 years, we’re still best friends, still in love, still supporting each other. We’ve learned to adapt to each other’s emotions and needs, because we know we were meant for one another. This is a lifelong commitment—“’til death do us part,” as we like to say.
I hope my sharing today helps you see the importance of trust, communication, and commitment in marriage. Every couple will find their own way, but honesty and respect will always be the foundation.
