My Thoughts on Weddings
Y’all, let me tell you something about weddings. I’ve been sitting here thinking about how my friends and family want me to throw this big 50th birthday party, but honestly, I don’t think I want a party at all. You know what I really want? I just want to relax. I want to go on vacation, lay out on somebody’s beach – that’s the real truth, baby. Because when you plan a party, it is so stressful. When you plan a big gathering, it can be exhausting, y’all know what I mean? And I’m not talking about stress in a bad way, but it takes a whole lot of effort. I don’t want to be working on my birthday – I want to be resting.
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That’s why I started thinking about people who plan weddings. I know some of y’all are getting married soon, and don’t get me wrong – I love weddings, I really do. But let’s be real: for the bride who’s planning that whole wedding, baby, that is a lot of pressure. So much pressure trying to get everything organized, trying to keep everybody on the same page, doing this, doing that, spending all that money, baby. And by the time it’s all over, you’re worn out and drained on your own big day, even if you’re happy. You’re sitting there like, “Lord have mercy, I’m tired,” not to mention the bills you’ve got to pay afterward.
And I just don’t get that. Somebody explain it to me – I know weddings are supposed to be fun and all, but it seems like people go into serious debt just to pull one off. And on your wedding day – the day that’s supposed to be one of the happiest and biggest moments of your life, the one you’ll never forget – it should be about joy. Not a memory of “Lord, I stressed myself for a whole year planning this thing, went through all that madness, all that chaos.” I don’t think it’s supposed to be like that.
And then you’ve got to pay for everybody else’s food just so they can have a good time. Because let’s be honest, y’all – when we go to weddings, we already know we’re going to have fun, but that fun costs the bride and groom a whole lot of money. Those plates are expensive! It costs so much, and the couple has to foot the bill. And then you’re sitting there thinking, “Wow, I’m the bride, I’m the groom, and I’m paying for everybody else to party while this is supposed to be my big day.”
Now, if you’ve got money, that’s fine. No problem at all. Some folks save for weddings from the time their kids are young. They’ve got a wedding fund, sometimes even a college fund set aside. That happens – not everyone, but some folks do it that way. But for those of us who don’t, baby, maybe I’m just rambling about nothing. Some of y’all might even be thinking, “What are you talking about?”
But here’s my two cents – me and my husband, we took our money and went on a honeymoon. We didn’t throw a wedding at all. I went down to the courthouse, signed the papers, and then me and my man hopped on a Disney cruise. Yep, we did a Disney Cruise and Disneyland. Four days, three nights at the park, stayed right on Disney property, then four days on the ship. That’s what we did, and let me tell you – we were young back then, but we had the best time, just the two of us. And instead of blowing money on a big wedding, we spent it on ourselves. Honestly? I think that was the smarter way to do it, if you ask me.
