On Relationships and Boundaries – A Lesson From My Life
Y’all, let me keep it real with you about something I’ve learned over the years: knowing how to choose who you keep around you.
Real Friendships
I’m blessed, y’all — I’ve got friends and family who truly love me for who I am. Some of them have been in my life for 30, even 40 years! Baby, that’s something worth cherishing.
What I love most about them? They never constantly ask me for stuff. They don’t see me through the lens of “B. Loves Life — the influencer.” They love me for me. They respect me that way, and baby, I love them right back for it.
If I do something for them, I do it from my heart, because I want to — not because they pressure me or keep asking.
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Red Flags I Stay Away From1. People Who Keep Asking for Things
Listen baby, one thing I cannot stand — is when I meet someone new and they keep saying:
“Can you…?”
“I need this…”
“Can you do…?”
And I’m sitting there thinking, why should I? Y’all know what I mean?
That’s such a big turn-off for me, baby! Because it makes me feel like the relationship isn’t:
“Hey, how you doing? I just want to be around because I enjoy your company.”
But more like: “What can I get from you?”
2. People Who Talk Behind Others’ Backs
Oh baby, I CAN’T with that kind of person! If you’re always like,
“Something, something, something…” gossiping about this person and that person —
Don’t bring that to me. I don’t wanna hear it!
Why? Because if you can do that to them, then I know you’ll do it to me too.
Girl, we all got our own problems to deal with every day. Maybe your issue ain’t mine, but sis — I don’t have time to sit around hearing about somebody else’s drama.
The Lesson About Choosing Friends
Y’all, these days I don’t let too many people get close to me. But the ones who’ve known me for 30 or 40 years? Those are good people — real, solid friendships that feel like family.
With new people? Baby, you never know what their motives are! Sometimes folks try to get close because of what I do — social media. Y’all think I’m kidding?
I gotta be careful with that, baby!
Sometimes you have to keep people on a “watch list” for years to see:
– Are they always asking for something?
– What’s their true intention?
– Do they love me genuinely, or is it just for gain?
Final Words
Baby, I know how to scout out my people — how to choose wisely who I let in. And that’s why I can live happy, full of energy, just like y’all see!
Protect your energy. Be selective about who gets a spot in your circle. You don’t have time for fake, negative, or one-sided relationships.
I love y’all — and always remember: keep God first and surround yourself with the real ones! 💕
