It started with a simple song lyric playing in the background — “I love you even if you gain a little weight.” Sweet, right? But somehow, it opened a door to one of the most honest, raw conversations we’ve ever had in our marriage.
We had just finished eating when my husband turned to me and asked, “Babe, do you think weight affects attraction in a relationship?” I paused. Because let’s be real — that’s a heavy question (no pun intended).
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He reminded me of our vows — “in sickness and in health” — and said he would always love me, no matter what. But then he asked something even deeper: “Is there a limit to attraction?” He gave examples: “What if you gained 30 pounds after giving birth? Probably no issue. But what about 100 pounds? Or 200? What if it was 600 pounds?”
At first, I didn’t know how to feel. But I appreciated that he wasn’t attacking me — he was opening a door for a real, grown conversation. And I walked through it with him.
We started talking about how couples can support each other when it comes to health. Not in a judgmental way, but in love. He even shared a funny (but low-key embarrassing) moment with his nutritionist. Apparently, on their first call, he said, “My wife cooks and I just keep eating.” I was right there when he said it! The nutritionist snapped back quick: “You’re in control of your own vehicle.” And we still laugh about that one.
But the truth is, it is hard to bring up weight in a relationship — especially if it’s your partner. No one wants to hear that they’ve “let themselves go.” But we both agreed that there has to be a space for honesty. Because love doesn’t mean ignoring hard things — it means caring enough to talk about them.
Then he looked me in the eyes and said, “If you ever gained 300 or 400 pounds, maybe attraction would change… but my love and commitment to you never would.”
And I believed him. Because I know his heart.
That conversation reminded me that true love isn’t about staying the same. It’s about evolving together. It’s not about the number on the scale — it’s about staying connected, being honest, and loving each other through every chapter.
