Our reaction when we found out Darius is gay

Hello everyone! Today, my husband and I want to share something deeply personal with you — a video our son Darius recently posted. That’s right — Darius has officially come out as gay.

We Already Knew

First, let me make one thing clear: we already knew. A lot of people ask, “How could his parents not know?” Well, we did. Darius didn’t exactly “come out” to his family — this was more about him sharing it publicly for the first time. We’ve always respected his timing and his personal journey. He wanted to go through it on his own terms, and this was the right time for him — right after graduation, as he begins what he calls “Darius 2.0.”

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An Outstanding Video

I have to say, I was blown away and incredibly proud of the video Darius made. My son has an amazing talent for editing — the intro and outro were so professional! The video runs about 30 minutes, but it’s so concise and straight to the point. What I loved most was how beautifully Darius expressed his feelings and thoughts.
There were even things in that video we didn’t know — like his first crush, or how he opened up to that person. Those are stories he never fully shared with us before.

Stay Tuned for Part 2

Darius is planning a Part 2 that’s going to be very educational. He’ll be talking about science and other topics he’s discussed deeply with his dad. It’s going to be an important conversation for anyone who hasn’t had the chance to truly learn about these things.
My husband is a Christian who believes in the Bible — but he’s also someone who loves discussion, loves learning, and wants to understand things more deeply. He’s always open to having these meaningful conversations with Darius.

A Question for You

I want to ask you all — especially my fellow Christians — how would you respond if your child came out to you?
Would you reject them?
Would you kick them out of your home?
Would you try to “preach” them into changing?
Or would you take time to process it but still stand by them?

I know it takes time to process. But as Christians, we’re not called to mistreat anyone. We’re called to love others — even when we don’t agree with everything they do. None of us are perfect. We all have our struggles.

When the Real Issue Is Pride

The truth is, sometimes the problem isn’t the child — it’s us, the parents. We get embarrassed. We start worrying about our image: “What will people think of me? They’ll blame me. Especially if I’m a deacon or a pastor…”
We stop thinking about our child and start thinking about ourselves — our reputation. And that’s why some parents reject their children — just to look “better” in front of others: “I kicked them out. I’m not associated with that.”
But is that love? That’s not God’s love.

A Painful Truth

Did you know that three years ago, Darius showed me a charity organization, and when I read about it, I was heartbroken? There are so many LGBTQ+ kids who are homeless — thrown out by their own families. Many of those families are Christian. They believe in God — and yet, they send their own children out to survive alone.
Many of those kids end up victims of trafficking. The number of children rejected by their families is devastating.

Unconditional Love

My husband and I believe everything the Bible teaches. But we also understand that we are not God. We’re not the judge.
We’re called to love unconditionally. That’s the greatest commandment — love God with all your heart, and love your neighbor as yourself.
Think about it — how do you want to be loved when you’re at your lowest? When you’re struggling? When you’re thriving? That love shouldn’t change. It shouldn’t decrease when you fall, and it shouldn’t increase when you succeed. Love is love. Period. Unconditional.
If God’s love were conditional, none of us would make it. His grace and mercy are everything.

Our Responsibility

All we can do is keep our son before God in prayer. It’s not our job to control him. What we owe him is love — unconditional love.
It’s his life, his journey. We love and support him no matter where he is in life. And we’ll keep praying for him.

Put Yourself in Their Shoes

Take a minute to imagine this: you’re 12, 13, or 16 years old. The people whose opinions matter most to you are your parents — the ones who raised you, loved you all your life, the ones you believed would always be there for you, with unconditional love.
Now imagine going to them with something deeply personal, something you’ve been struggling to understand — and they reject you. They throw you away like trash: “No, I don’t agree. You can’t carry my name if you live like that. You can’t stay in this house.”
They throw you out on the street with nothing — no support, no way to take care of yourself. And now you’re exposed to even greater dangers.
Think about that. Ask yourself: is that the right way to handle it? Is that what God would do? Is that how He treats you?

“You Will Know Them by Their Fruit”

Christianity isn’t just a title. The Bible says, “You will know them by their fruit.”
So what fruit are we showing? Rejection? Shame? Throwing someone away? Dismissing their feelings, emotions, and life?
What kind of spirit is that? What kind of love is that?

When It Happens to You

It’s easy to judge when it’s not your situation. “They’re them, we’re us. That’s not our problem.” But it’s a whole different story when it hits home.
You might think, “I would never do that” — until it happens to you. You don’t really know what you’ll do until it becomes your reality.
That’s when you really have to get on your knees and say, “Lord, I need Your help with this.”

God Doesn’t Make Mistakes

I truly believe the answer is to take it to God. Be honest. Pour it all out — your thoughts, your confusion, your emotions. Go into that quiet space with God and let it out.
Because here’s what I know for sure: God doesn’t make mistakes. Darius was given to us — specifically to us — for a reason. He’s a smart young man who knows who he is. He’s faced battles in his mind we never even knew about — questions like, “Why me? Why, God?”
But God doesn’t make mistakes.

Final Words

We’ll have another video where I’ll share more about my personal feelings and reflections. But for now, I just want to leave you with this:
Keep praying. Keep loving God with all your heart. Put Him first in everything you do. And love people — that’s what it’s all about.

My dear friends, we love you. Be blessed.