The Harsh Truth About Working With Your Husband

Y’all, I want to share with you what it’s like working with my husband, because I know a lot of couples struggle with this. My husband and I have been working together for many years now—ever since we met at Motorola, then with our childcare center that had 200 kids and 38 employees, and now on YouTube. You could say we’re used to it, but let me be real—it hasn’t been easy.

The Early Days – The Real Struggle
When we first started working together, oh my goodness, it was something else. Back when I was running the childcare center, my husband had a different job, but he still helped me with payroll, paychecks, and the books. Later, we both worked at Motorola for years, then together at the center, and now YouTube.

The thing is, when you see that person every single day, all day long—every day all day—you’ve got to build a relationship that’s so close that your spouse becomes your best friend. Because in those moments, honey, you need them to be your best friend. You’ve got to be able to look at them and say, “Okay, I love this person, I’m really in love with this person.”

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The Lessons We Learned

Separating Work and Family
Listen, we’ve had some hard times in our marriage—no hiding that. There was a rough season when we were working, going to church, taking classes, trying to run a business, doing too much and forgetting about “us.” It stopped being “you and your spouse,” you know what I mean? And you can’t let that slide.

So we made a promise—we vowed to each other: “Listen, we’ve got to separate work from home. We’re not going to talk about work on certain days—none of that.”
Our weekends start on Friday and end on Sunday. I don’t care what’s going on, but when the weekend comes, no work talk. If you want to talk about business, we’re not doing it. Period.

You’ve Got to Be Mature
Y’all, you’ve really got to grow up in your marriage, especially if you’re in business together. You’ve got to learn how to handle it. My husband and I had to get serious, because we could have some heated arguments over work—and that’s why maturity is key.

Moving Away From Family
I honestly believe that couples who leave their hometown, move away from where they were raised, and start fresh together without family or friends around—it can actually be better.
The Bible says, “a man shall leave his family and cling to his wife.” That’s so true. Sometimes you really do have to move out of state. I’m not saying it can’t work if you stay close to home, but from my experience, when you move somewhere else…

That’s what my husband and I did. When you move away and it’s just the two of you, it builds a stronger bond because that’s all you’ve got—each other. No family members around, no friends to pull you away. Just y’all.

Now, that doesn’t mean there won’t be trials and tribulations, but it definitely bonds you closer. It makes you stronger—so much stronger. And you don’t have all those outside voices saying, “Girl, you need to do this,” or “Boy, you need to do that.”

If you want to go on a date, it’s with your husband. Lunch? With your husband. A show? With your husband—because you don’t have girlfriends to call or guy friends to hang out with.

Final Advice
Working with your spouse can be very challenging, but if you can get through it, you can handle anything. You create a bond through working together and just being together, because you’re around each other all the time.

But remember—you’ve got to keep balance. You can’t mix everything up, because if you do, you’ll lose yourself and you could lose your marriage. It sounds crazy, but it’s true when you’re together all the time.

Y’all, that’s my experience. It’s not easy, but with commitment and the right principles, you can make it work.