Let me break down this wild story I just came across because, whew… the audacity is unreal.
So picture this — a woman plans a big birthday dinner and invites her friends and family to a high-end restaurant. Sounds lovely, right? You’d think she’s hosting since it’s her celebration. That’s usually how birthdays go — you treat your guests, or at least let them know what to expect.
But nah, that’s not what happened.
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These guests show up, thinking they’re about to enjoy a nice night out. Folks were ordering appetizers, entrees, desserts, drinks — the whole nine. Everyone thought it was covered. I mean, it’s her birthday dinner… at a fancy spot… she invited them…
Then the check came.
Y’all. The total? $4,600.
That’s four thousand six hundred dollars.
And this birthday girl had the nerve to tell the waiter to split the bill equally among the guests. Baby… that came out to $300-400 per person!
Excuse me?!
What were they eating — gold-covered lobster flown in from another continent?
Let me be clear: when I host, I make it known upfront. If I say, “Y’all good, it’s on me, order what you want,” then I mean that from the bottom of my heart. But if it’s a “we’re celebrating together, come support me” kind of dinner — best believe I’m going to give folks a heads-up so they can budget accordingly.
Because here’s the truth — not everyone has money to casually drop hundreds on one meal. And even if they do, that doesn’t mean you get to decide how they spend it.
What blew my mind even more is that the guests said no — straight up refused to pay. And honestly? I don’t blame them one bit. That kind of stunt damages relationships. It's not just about the money — it’s about respect, communication, and setting expectations.
I always say: just be real with people. If you're planning something pricey, say something ahead of time. Give folks the choice to come or not. But blindsiding them like that? That’s not celebrating — that’s trapping people.
And let’s keep it all the way real — some people won’t ever show up for you again after a move like that.
So take this as a lesson, y’all: birthdays are special, but don't let your sense of celebration turn into a moment of entitlement. Show gratitude, not greed. And please, don’t have your friends out here choking on steak and the bill.
