Discussion About Infidelity 

Hey y’all! Today, while enjoying some Buffalo Wild Wings, Nate and I got into a really interesting conversation about infidelity. It’s definitely a heavy topic, but we felt like it’s something worth talking about openly.

The Drama from Love & Marriage: Huntsville

This all started while we were watching Love & Marriage: Huntsville. There’s this guy named Martell — he got another woman pregnant while he was still married. And to make it worse, more women later came forward saying they’d been with him too. Martell had affairs with multiple women.

His wife, Melody, decided to keep the baby because she said she’d already had too many abortions and didn’t want to go through that again. It’s honestly such a heartbreaking situation.

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The Big Question: What Kind of Cheating Is Worse?

While we were eating, Nate asked me something that made me stop and think:
“What’s worse — cheating with multiple people or having a long-term affair with just one person?”

My Opinion (From a Woman’s Point of View)

I said it straight up — I think cheating with multiple people is worse!

Why? Because if your man has a wandering eye for everybody, if he wants everybody, then you’ll never be able to trust him. You know what I mean?

You don’t know who he’s looking at, who he’s talking to, or who he might be into next. There are just too many people to worry about, and that completely destroys your trust. Because when he steps outside, you’ll constantly feel like anyone could be a threat.

Now, if it’s just one person, at least you know who it is. You’re only worrying about one woman, not a whole crowd. That’s why I feel like sleeping around with multiple people is worse — it shatters your trust completely.

Nate’s Take (From a Man’s Perspective)

Nate said it’s a totally different conversation when you look at it from a man’s point of view. He explained it like this:

“When you’re a man and you marry someone, you marry a certain kind of woman. You don’t marry the type who’s out here doing all that. You might date her, have fun with her, but she’s not the one you bring home to meet your mom. She’s not the one you marry.”

He said if he ever found out his wife had cheated with multiple men — and those men could all say, ‘Yeah, I was with your wife’ — that would hit completely different. Nate made it clear: “Men and women cheat differently, y’all. It’s just not the same.”

The Story of Liv’s Life (Olivia)

We also talked about another YouTuber — Olivia from Liv’s Life. She and her husband Jerrod have been through a lot. He did her wrong, and she even found out he had a girlfriend. It’s such a complicated relationship.

Why It’s Hard to Leave Someone You Love

I know a lot of people judge Olivia, but I understand her. Sometimes, you can’t control who you love.

She loves that man deeply, and she keeps asking herself, “Why do I keep going back?” She’s hurting, y’all. Every time you think she’s done, she goes back again.

And listen — yes, as women, we need to do better. We know we should leave, we should move on. But it’s easier said than done!

Everyone Handles It Differently

People love to say, “Girl, leave him! Do this, do that!” But what if they were in that situation?

It’s easier for some women to walk away than it is for others. It depends on what you’ve built together — your home, your family, your memories.

Sometimes it takes people — men or women — a long time to finally say, “Okay, I’m done.” Not everyone has that kind of strength to just get up and walk away. Some folks just can’t be alone. Love is a powerful thing, y’all.

The Kids Factor

Olivia and Jerrod have kids together, and that changes everything. When you have kids, you start thinking:

• How will we co-parent if this ends?

• How do we explain it to the kids?

• Maybe it’s easier when they’re little…

• But when they’re old enough to understand, divorce can really hurt them.

I’ve seen divorces tear kids apart. Some have said their parents’ divorce ruined their college years — they turned to drugs, or they just couldn’t get their lives together.

A Message to Olivia

I just want to say — I’m wishing her the best in her relationship and with her family. We’re really praying for her, for real.

She’s gone through so much, right in front of the whole internet. And I feel bad for her, because people are so harsh.

Y’all act like YouTubers don’t have real lives — like we’re not real people dealing with real problems. But we are. We go through things just like everybody else.